anger

"Hani is waiting for Huda, her friend at her house. they are planning having a lunch together and also plan to window shopping at supermarket.. Huda promises to fetch Hani at 10 am on sunday..after hours waiting for Huda, she still doesnt show up.. her hp is off.....then, after 3 hours, someone knocks up hani's front door..here she comes.. Hani tell Huda that she doesnt want to go anymore and close the door with all her strength..bang....the shut door sounds like a bomb..." (ini adalah rekaan semata mata)..............
After read the situation above, what actually do u feel when u imagine urself as Hani or Huda?......Yeah....ANGER, HURT, IRRITATION....................

As we know, anger is a natural emotion for every human being....It is true most of the natural thing is good for us but not for anger...Anger is like a poison to human...

What do we feel when we get angry??
When we get angry, the adrenaline pumps into our bloodstream, our blood pressure increase due to our heart beat increase, and easily get sweaty...this is known as physiological response..
this response changes to physiological reaction when u cant control urself...You start to shout, yell, throw anything that u can grab that moment, give a dirty look and etc.....huhuhuhuu....

Then after a moment, u feel regret, is it? Why i did something i shouldnt do? Why i did something stupid for unworthy thing? Its too late..("its too late to apologize"-what song?)..When u get angry, u want to get revenge..You want to hurt back someone who hurt u...u want to show people that u r smart enough..u dont deserve this, u dont deserve that...
Actually u r nothing when u response this way..

I am wondering why there are some people able to hide their anger and be cool,some people easily get angry and some people get more angry than others?
There are a lot of research that maybe suitable to answer this question..Some researches unveil the reason behind this maybe due to genetic, family background or sociocultural...Maybe these factors can contribute to the anger expression level of anger, but for me the contribution only a small percentage... Actually, its all depend on us....Whether we mature enough or not, whether our thinking is smart enough ot not...only ourselves can control ourselves..however, we need support from others too...

So, how can we cope this emotion??? I know its not easy to overcome this hatred feeling.... What i do is i try to avoid the person that hurt me for that moment...its me..because i cant face to face or deal with that person when im get angry..i cant control my mind, my feeling..if i make a decision that time, its not truly from my heart...i guess so because the same thing happen again and again....i feel regret when making decision in those hard time.......however, thats my way.i am sure there are other alternatives to solve this anger problem...which one suit urself the best?

This entry is specially dedicates to me